Are you looking for even MORE encouraging responses to use with your children? Would you like to step back and allow your children more practice in decision making, cause-and-effect and creative thinking? If you do, we have 10 More Encouraging One-Liners to help create space for trial and error, modeling and problem solving. PLUS we have a few *bonus* suggestions from Rick Ackerly.
Note: If we go about each day with a goal (to use encouraging phrases), we will find it easier to slow down, relax, let go and say, sure- let’s see how this plays out (instead of reacting, steering or trying to control the outcome of ALL the ups and downs, bumps and hiccups along the way). Good luck and please share your encouragement tales!
- Can I join you? (Instead of assuming: I can join just because I’m the parent.)
- How would you fix this problem?(Instead of saying: What a mess! or Look what you did!)
- I never would have thought of that. (Instead of wondering: WHAT ON EARTH are you doing?)
- Hmmm…interesting choice (Instead of reacting: NO WAY! Not ice cream for breakfast!)
- That was a mistake. Oh well. (Instead of commenting: You should’ve done this or that.)
- What an improvement, don’t you think? (Instead of hinting: You’re not getting the dishes 100% clean.)
- I’m sorry. (Instead of acting like: I’m right just because I’m the adult.
- I noticed how hard you tried to do that. (Instead of noticing: Why didn’t you get it right?)
- I’ve learned a lot from you. (Instead of claiming: As a parent, I teach the valuable lessons).
- What you did made a difference in the situation.(Instead of: Focusing on the outcome, ignoring the effort).
Bonus! Rick Ackerly added:
“You can handle it.”
“What was the worst thing about that?”
“Oh can be said with many different inflections. You might want to practice them in front of a mirror or with a fellow parent–take turns saying “Oh” to each other.” – Rick Ackerly
Remember: your face, tone and body language can say something very different than your voice. Have fun and let us know how it goes!