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Only Fifteen Minutes for Summer Success

Only Fifteen Minutes for Summer SuccessAre you excited by the possibilities of summer fun and the chance to sleep in?

Eager to reconnect with the kids or finish a long-forgotten project?

Looking forward to short day trips or an extended family vacation?

Or are you nervous about child care or too much downtime for your teenagers?

Consider what your summer might look like if you created a plan – a plan that takes everyone in the family into account, a plan that’s created during a family meeting where everyone, especially your kids, are encouraged to participate in its design.

Family meetings are the perfect time to prepare for summer success. If you’ve taken one of my classes, you already know the importance of family meetings. If you have them every week, you are probably already experiencing the benefits.

The purpose of family meetings is to appreciate each other, delegate household responsibilities, solve problems, and distribute money. And at this time of year, they’re a great tool to set the stage and plan for summer success.

The Shocking Truth About Praise

Do you believe that good parents praise their children?

When your child wins a game, draws a picture, or comes home with an A on her report card, what do you say? What are you thinking?

Are you like so many other parents who are in the habit of responding with words like “Good job,” “Nice work,” or “I am so proud of you” without considering how these words will impact your child’s developing self-esteem and self-confidence?

A Different Perspective

A several ago, there was an article in New York Magazine by Po Bronson titled “How Not to Talk to Your Kids: The Inverse Power of Praise” that raised some interesting points. Consider this:

  • Did you know that telling your children how smart they are and offering praise often leads to under achievement?
  • Did you ever make the connection between rewarding your child too frequently and his or her level of persistence when rewards are not present?
  • How about the notion that persistence is also an unconscious response in the brain that intervenes when there is no immediate reward?

Now that you know

  • How will you change your response?
  • What will it take for you to become more creative in your use of language?
  • How will you ask questions that encourage your children to self-evaluate?
  • What observations could you make that would support your child as he learns new skills and faces new challenges?
  • How much discipline will it take for you to resist giving your opinion?
  • Armed with this new information, what choices will you make for you and your children?

Read the article and tell us what you think!